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Old 03-13-2007, 10:45 PM
Jason R Jason R is offline
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Default My son died in a car accident

I feel bad - like I never should have taught him to drive. Then it wouldn't have happened. I miss him, and my wife is angry all the time. I think we might get a divorice.
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Old 04-19-2007, 05:24 AM
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Don't ever blame yourself for his passing. Nobody wanted him to die and his death is nobody's fault. If you can settle your dispute with your wife, please do so as I know your son now feels bad about the idea of divorce.

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Old 05-31-2007, 04:04 PM
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Default There's nothing as excruciating as sudden loss

You are not to blame. I'd like to you to know that your son's energy went into the non-physical plane, and that he will venture back to this time-space reality. You gave him a loving childhood, and he learned so much from you - to prepare him for this next adventure.

We are eternal beings. There is no death of the spirit, only a passing of the physical body.

Love to you!
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Old 12-22-2008, 09:15 PM
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Default I understand your feelings

My youngest is learning to drive, right now -at 18. He's still not ready to be out there on his own, and luckily (to me, anyway) he didn't pass his behind-the-wheel test. I was so relieved!

I'm terrified of him being on the road, and live with the illusion that he's safer when I'm driving. What a crock - just because I've been driving 36 years doesn't mean trouble can't find me!

I just wish he was content to ride the bus, for the rest of his life. Unfortunately, that's no guarantee of safety either.

Please know your son loved you both very much, and thanks you for the freedom you bestowed on him. His consciousness was expanded, and he was happy.

Now, it's up to you to find happiness again: to live fully, in his honor!

Sending you both a big hug.
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Old 06-02-2009, 11:31 AM
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Default My son died

How so sad that her of your story you lost your son . By the way i only offer you this inspirational ebook its all about

thinking God I lost my baby just search it in google Thank God My son died. You can share your story too.
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Old 06-03-2009, 10:44 AM
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Oh its very painful for you, young age death is really shocked anyone. I think you have twice grief now, First is death of your son and second is divorce of your wife. You can try to console your wife. I understand it is very critical situation.
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Old 09-05-2009, 10:28 AM
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Default Hello

Yes, you are right -losing a child is the most painful experience for a parent to survive. I am sorry to hear about your child. Your comments are dear to my heart. Thanks for taking the time to share a thought and make me feel others understand how I might feel.. God bless you........

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Old 09-20-2009, 07:56 AM
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Don't ever blame yourself for his passing
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Old 12-15-2009, 09:17 PM
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Default The "ANGER" stage is normal...

Believe me when I say this to you. "ANGER" is a normal reaction after the sudden loss of a child, for BOTH parents. My husband & I have riden that emotional rollercoaster, time & time again. "STILL" to this present day, I more than he. After the loss of our daughter (age,15) we too were "QUICKLY" on the path of "DIVORCE". I have my therapist to thank for saving our marriage. I was a "COMPLETE" mess after my daughter died, & although we still have 2 surviving children... The PAIN & every other emotion that came w/ our loss had just "CONSUMED" me & it almost destroyed my marriage. My husband felt that not only did he lose his daughter, he also lost his wife in the bargin. It's taken both of us putting in the work, along w/ therapy to save our marriage. After 3yrs, we no longer recieve treatment as a couple, but..? I however,continue w/ my weekly therapy sessions. Be well & God Bless, Lydia

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